Episode 11 - What makes it so hard to let go of your shame?
In previous episode, I already mentioned that guilt and shame have something in common: few people realise that neither are regular emotions. In fact, they are not emotions at all.
Where guilt is a signal about something you’ve done, shame is a warning signal about who you are. Specifically that there is a part of who you are that you don’t want to accept.
There is a lot that we are told we should feel ashamed of. As a result, we often force ourselves to fit an image of you that doesn’t fit. In the process, we deny and suppress parts of who we are as a person. You can do so, but your brains continuously remind you of who you really are. That constant reminder is what we call ‘shame’.
Because shame has to do with our identity – the very core of who we are as a person – it is hard to let go of it. In this video, I give you the nutshell answer to ‘how do I let go of my shame?’.
Resolving the shame that hinders you in your life is much more profound – and a bit more complicated – than resolving guilt. But it can be done.
If the first step I share in the video isn’t enough and you’d like to consider the second step of finding professional help, I’ll be more than happy to help you find your bearings and make a plan to move forward. Free of charge and without obilgation. When you’re ready, let’s talk:
Video is subtitled in English & Dutch