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You may not like to say it out loud, but deep inside you know you are a sensitive person with a creative and quite intelligent mind. At a glance, your life is well-organised: you have a job, a partner and a few good friends, hobbies, a house. And yet…
…you can’t shake the feeling that you are failing miserably. That who you are and what you do is somehow not good enough, no matter how hard you try to meeting the expetations that people and life in general have of you. And it’s eating you from the inside out.
Do You Recognise this?
Yet when you look at others – at your colleagues, your friends and family – they seem to have their life completely under control. And you can help but wonder yet again: “Why can’t I just get it right, too?”
You are constantly second-guessing yourself and often doubt whether you even meet basic requirements to pass as an adult. Sometimes you doubt you ‘fit’ in with society at all. You see all those other people sailing effortlessly through life. If they can do so, then surely you should be able to do the same?
So you dial up the pressure another notch and force yourself to just try harder. Never mind that you sleep poorly because you can’t stop worrying. Never mind that your stomach aches and that the muscles in your body are so tense they hurt all the time. To you, it just means you have to up the pressure yet again and try even harder. And harder, and harder…
How much longer can you keep this up?
You know you can’t go on like this. I know you know, otherwise you wouldn’t be here, reading these words. The way things are now, that isn’t what you want. You want to be good enough, you want to be able to get it right! And you want to sail through life as easily as everybody else does.
But pushing yourself ever harder won’t bring that change you so desperately want. You’ve tried that route long enough and often enough, and with very little success. In fact, all that pressure you put on yourself just makes things worse, doesn’t it?
So, what will you do now? Will you push yourself beyond breaking point, where it will take you months or even years to piece yourself back together, accepting the realistic risk that you may lose your your job, your house or loved ones along the way?
Or do you step up and make the changes you want? No temporary solutions, as I’m sure you’ve already tried many, but truly getting to the heart of the problem and root out your self-doubt and unsecurity, so you can finally enjoy your life again?
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